In the film The Holiday, dumped and depressed English Iris (Kate Winslet) swaps homes for two weeks with cheated on Californian Amanda (Cameron Diaz). Iris befriends Amanda’s elderly neighbour Arthur (Eli Wallach) who is a retired Hollywood screenwriter.
Over dinner, Arthur explains that “in the movies we have leading ladies and we have the best friend. You, I can tell, are a leading lady, but for some reason, you’re behaving like the best friend”. Iris exclaims “You’re so right. You’re supposed to be the leading lady of your own life for God’s sake!”.
Despite being an intelligent and capable journalist, Iris has been playing small for years. She has been trying so hard to please everyone else that she has lost sight of who she is and what she wants.
We all experience this to some extent. Who’s wishes are you fulfilling? Yours? Do you know what they are anymore? If not, you are far from alone, very few people do.
Being the leading actor in your own life can be scary though. You can’t hide in the crowd, you are in most of the scenes, you are visible. You are playing yourself not someone else. This is the scariest part of all. Very few people honestly believe they are leading role material. But how can you not be? It’s your story.
Stepping up means taking a risk. Stepping up means knowing – who you are. Stepping up means being vulnerable. It’s natural to feel nervous, exposed, or worried.
People who take the time to pause, take stock and think differently never regret it. By dis-covering more about yourself and what matters most to you now, you can step up and step forward into a life and career that suits you better. With the right support, you can liberate yourself and your career.